Loosing your child can be an extremely isolating experience. Jesse and I have both found ourselves looking for others who have walked in our shoes. Hoping that maybe they will “get it” and we will know we aren’t alone. We have also felt extremely blessed by those who have had a similar loss and reached out to us. For both of these reasons I want you to contact us if you experience the loss of your child or if you know someone who has. We would feel honored to walk beside you. Your grief will not scare us and we will not be afraid to give you that hug or listening ear. We know all the ugly and all the pain. And we would love to be there for you.
Grief is a God given process to deal with the pain of loss. There are many ways to walk through grief and many tools to help you do so. I hope to offer you ways of using these tools in your personal grieving process.
Music and Books
Music is a great way to work through grief. It has a way of calming my heart when I start to get worked up. It can put words to emotions I’m experiencing. Below are the songs I have dedicated to each of my boys. Glory Baby and Hug Him Once for Me. Also my song for this season of life; Though You Slay Me. I listen to these every day.
Glory Baby by Watermark: My song to Gabriel that I had on repeat for about 6 months straight after he passed. I miss him every day but he just has heaven before we do.
Hug Him Once for Me by Erica McClure: This song makes my heart hurt so much. I can’t listen to it without melting into a puddle on the ground. I longed to hold Josiah when he was laying in his hospital bed. I still ache for him to be in my arms. I dreamed of raising him into a godly man. But how much more he is experiencing now. And how much more deeply does he know Jesus than I. Hug him once for me…
Though you Slay Me- Shane and Shane: My 2014 Song of the Year “Though you ruin me, YET I will praise you” I feel ruined and slayed and utterly destroyed. Yet from the bottom of my soul I cry out to God in thanksgiving for all He has done.
Surviving the Loss of Your Child by Elizabeth B Brown- a book Jesse and I both devoured in the days after the funeral. It just felt good to hear someone else’s account of loosing their child and then go on to survive.
Safe in the Arms of God by John McArthur- Reassurance if you are unsure of where you child is. Biblical accounts of God’s love for the innocent. This also changed the way I see miscarried babies and their roll in the family.